You've tried limits. Contracts. Taking the phone away.
What if the answer isn't more control — it's collective?
You've already stepped up. You've said the awkward thing in the group chat, maybe even started a tech pact with other parents. But doing this alone is exhausting. What if you had a simple way to organize, save time, and connect with parents who get it?
When one parent speaks up, it's hard.
When five parents do it? It's culture-shifting.
Four Norms isn't just a toolkit, it's a growing network of parents, local groups, and aligned organizations working toward healthier tech culture together.
As more people join, you’ll be able to see how other groups are organizing, discover petitions and templates that are already working, connect with organizations doing this work in schools and communities, and share what’s worked in your own group to help others start strong.
We're building the infrastructure, but the movement is shaped by everyone on it.
That's what makes it powerful.
Most platforms will tell you what to do. Four Norms gives you the how.
We built Four Norms because parents deserve better tools and infrastructure to organize, align, and take action. So no, this isn't just another library of articles or expert advice — it's infrastructure for parents who are ready to actually build momentum in their communities.
Whether you're starting from scratch or organizing inside a group you already belong to, you'll get access to tools that make collective action easier, faster, and more coordinated:
Active Community Map
Connect with other parents organizing nearby (because you're not the only one thinking this way).
Group Action Guides
Access playbooks that turn concerned parents into effective advocates, created by experienced advocates
Event Listings
Join local or national events that make it easier to plug in, see what's working across the country.
One-Click Campaigns
Launch ready-made petitions and start collecting signatures quickly even if you're not "tech-y."
Parent Pact Builder
Get alignment with a community tech agreement and send out to your network in less than 5 minutes.
Template Library
Use our proven messages, emails, and outreach materials.
How real parents are leading the shift
You don't need to be loud, experienced, or official to lead. Most Four Norms leaders are parents who just took the next right step and kept showing up. For example:
Schools Beyond Screens
Los Angeles, CA
Working with families across Los Angeles Unified School District to pull back on screen-based learning
Demanding accountability from LAUSD on EdTech products and advocating for evidence-based, developmentally appropriate learning methods in classrooms
The Balance Project
Little Silver, NJ
Rallying around shared values and community interests
Balanced approach where kids develop healthy brains through independence and real-world social experiences
Turning Life On
National Organization
Sharing their step-by-step guides to help other communities take action
Turning Life On
Advocating for a Stronger Device Policy
Here's a plan, with letters, for advocating for a stronger policy as outlined by model legislation from Distraction Free Schools Policy Project
Turning Life On
Getting Started Playbook
Click view to view this playbook on how to get started in your community! This playbook gives you the first steps that you need to mobilize collective action in your community.
You shouldn't have to lead a movement with a spreadsheet and a gut feeling.
Four Norms gives you structure and social proof. Now you can stop writing every letter from scratch and start using what's already working in groups across the country.
Questions Many Parents Have
What if I've never organized anything before?
Most Four Norms leaders hadn't either. You don't need credentials — just curiosity, a willingness to reach out, and the right tools. We've got those ready for you.
What if I try and no one shows up?
Sometimes that happens. And it doesn't mean you're doing it wrong. Most parents feel the same way you do… but they're overwhelmed, unsure, or waiting for someone else to go first. Sometimes it takes two or three tries to find the right people — or the right moment. The platform gives you tools to keep it simple and stay encouraged.
Do I need to get permission from a school to use this?
Not at all. You can use Four Norms independently — in your friend group, on a team, in your neighborhood, or as a parent in a school community. If you do want to partner with a school, we've got outreach tools for that too.
What if my group loses momentum?
We've included simple follow-up tools and examples of what's worked for other families. You don't need a weekly meeting to make progress — just a shared goal and a few touch points.
Can I share these tools with others?
Yes — please do. Four Norms is built to spread. The more parents who use the same language and tools, the easier it becomes to shift what's expected. We build the infrastructure, to support the parents and advocates building the movement.